My approach to building a minimalist wardrobe is quite different from most guides you’ll find on the internet, because I don’t want to end up with a generic, half-assed wardrobe full of dull, boring clothes.
After all, the whole idea behind Sexy Style for Joe is to show you how you can make the most of our image and style. Having only unimpressive, basic outfits would barely scratch the surface of what we can achieve with our image.
Instead, I always start with an image archetype in mind and pick one or two “I’m Getting Laid Outfits” that would suit this image archetype.
The idea here is that before anything else you should decide what you want to communicate with your image, how you want to be seen.
So in my case, that’s along the lines of “sophisticated but edgy and fun”. A man, who knows and acknowledges all the rules but then smiles and shows the middle finger to them.
It’s best illustrated in this outfit:
As you can see, with the buttoned shirt and smart patterned chinos, I’m just a couple of pieces away from the “oh, you’re such a well-dressed man”. So instead, I show the metaphorical middle finger to the expectations and put on a biker leather jacket, edgy accessories and leave shirt untucked, with three buttons open.
When it comes to my romantic goals, there’s even more going on behind the scenes:
As hard as it is for me to admit it, I’m actually kind of a “Good Guy”. I’m polite, I smile a lot, and I like to help people feel better about themselves. Well, most of the time.
It’s something that comes naturally to me and I genuinely like it that way.
The problem is, if I dressed like your average “nice guy”, that’s it – I’m screwed. I’d be stuck in the potential boyfriend zone (or, worse, friend zone) forever and ever. I’d be going on countless dates with only a hug or a peck on the cheek at the end of the night.
Instead, when I look like someone who goes for quick sex but then let some of my good guy tendencies take over, I can really screw with the heads of women I’m interested in:
“Is he a player that I need to be careful with? Nah, come on, look at that sweet smile – can’t be!”
“Is he someone I could bring back to show my family? No! Seriously, look at him, he looks like he would sleep with your sister and then hit on your mother…”
Over the years, I got a lot comments like that ranging from “you must’ve have slept with half the woman in town by now” to “why are you being so good to me?”
When you cannot be quickly categorized, you’re carving a category of your own and that’s when you start getting away with a lot more. This contrast allows me to sleep around and keep a lot of those women for casual sexual relationships.
But that’s just one way to approach image.
Another strategy is to double down on your natural tendencies. Let’s say you’re going for one night stands and have a very direct, sexual approach. You could double down and go for a polarizing, highly sexual image and instantly screen out all the time wasters. The women who are left will (usually) be up to play.
That’s what I mean when I say that we should tailor our image to suit our personality and goals.
So when building my minimalist wardrobe, that’s the starting point – know what you want to communicate and how you want to be seen.
Based on that, pick the most suitable image archetype.
Once you have the image in mind it’s time to pick a couple of outfits that would suit this image.
For inspiration and ideas go to:
You should be able to find more than plenty of ideas.
So far, this strategy is the same whether you’re looking to build a regular tailored wardrobe or a minimalist one.
If you’re looking to build a sexy minimalist wardrobe, however, look at the outfits you picked and see if you can identify 2 – 3 key pieces.
Those are the pieces of clothing that repeat themselves from outfit to outfit OR that could work with multiple outfits.
Usually you’ll want to pick key pieces that are the most expensive to get, like outerwear and shoes.
In my case that’s the biker leather jacket and Chelsea boots.
The two core pieces the rest of my wardrobe is built around